![]() ![]() In the course of establishing security, many couples confuse love with merging. The caring, protective elements that foster love often block the unself-consciousness that fuels erotic pleasure. Love flourishes in an atmosphere of closeness, mutuality, and equality.įor many, emotional intimacy inhibits erotic expression. I invite you to think about ways you might introduce risk to safety, mystery to the familiar, and novelty to the enduring. It’s hard to generate excitement, anticipation, and lust with the same person you look to for comfort and stability, but it’s not impossible. We expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. ![]() Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did. ![]() When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? Why is the forbidden so erotic? We all share a fundamental need for security, but we have an equally strong need for adventure and excitement. This book speaks about eroticism and the poetics of sex, the nature of erotic desire and its attendant dilemmas. Esther Perel is the leading therapist for couples and has incredible books and podcast. I have included some of my favorite quotations from the book below: ![]() MATING IN CAPTIVITY by Esther Perel is a really incredible book about unlocking erotic intelligence. ![]()
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